After a period of time when the parenting plan has been completed, marital property is divided, and the divorce decree has been signed, it’s now time to face life as a single and create your future. Life is filled with many uncertainties but now is the time that you must decide to face them with confidence in order to control your life and move forward.
Many uncertainties for those who are divorcing may include concerns about finances, single parenting abilities, meeting new friends and getting back in the swing of being single, juggling employment and parenting, co-parenting relationship with their ex, and so forth. As divorce comes to an end, each spouse will realize that they are now independent of who they were as their identity has changed. Many become so fixated on all the changes that divorce brings that they become overwhelmed by their concerns and stagnated in their personal growth.
Instead of allowing uncertainties to cripple your life, they can force you to move forward with your new life thus compelling you toward action rather than stagnation. This forward action can create life fulfillment as you will make decisions toward reclaiming control of your life which may have been reduced through fears associated with divorce. Realizing that when you allow stagnation and refusal to stand up to face uncertainties you may be extending divorce grief and anxiety.
When the uncharted waters of facing the unknown engulf you, it is necessary to keep a positive outlook. Negative thoughts will enable you to feel insecure and afraid of to move forward toward the future. No one has all of the answers to life, especially when facing divorce. They key is accepting the fact that you do not have all the answers and cannot control the future. What you can do is create a vision of what you desire for your future and strive to make it happen.
One learns to face the future by realizing that we have no control over it. The only person you can control is yourself as you determine your future life goals and then take the needed steps required to achieve them. Realizing that nothing in life should be feared, rather understanding that obstacles can help us overcome, thus bringing our dreams into reality as we face the fears created by divorce, we can reclaim our life.
Divorce Tool Box, is aware that life present obstacles as people transition from married to single. The key is how to manage the transition in a healthy manner both mentally and physically. Visit our website, www.divorcetoolbox.com today and begin your new future with a more optimistic view.