While traditional resolutions are typically a welcome part of beginning a new year, one New Year’s resolution that is “storming” many locations is that of unhappily-marrieds resolving in January to make this the year in which they cut the cord with their spouses. With the number of filings for divorces soaring during this month, January has been named the “divorce month of the year.”
Furthermore, “Divorce Day” is lawyers’ nickname for January 3rd, because according to a January 3, 2012, blog of The Telegraph, this is “when unloving couples return from the compulsory cheerfulness of Christmas holidays determined to seek new and separate lives in the New Year.”
Jonathan West, England’s head of the matrimonial law solicitors, reports that in January, they see double the usual number of divorce inquiries over any other month. Again, the spike is attributed to the strain of couples spending time together over the holidays, and also the fact that many spouses wanting to divorce will wait until after Christmas to avoid upsetting their families at that special time—making Christmas essentially “the calm before the storm.”
Also blowing in with this “storm,” is an interesting fact from attorneys, according to The Telegraphof January 4, 2012, that three-quarters of this surge in new divorce filings are instigated by women.
CHILDREN AND DIVORCE
According to ABC News on May 13, 2011, divorce’s path of destruction affected 2.8 million adults each year.Children in these families are also affected by their parents’ decision to divorce, in that they will be living in separate homes when spending custodial time with each parent. But that’s not the worst of the aftermath. According to report by the U.S. Census Bureau, “Marital Events of Americans: 2009,” children of divorce are more likely to live in poverty. With parental incomes necessarily divided, available financial resources are often reduced while household expenses, including the costs of raising children often must be reduced accordingly to the detrimental effect of the children. Divorce Tool Box founder, Audrey Silcox, professional coach, counselor and certified divorce and family mediator says, “As innocent emotional and financial victims of divorce, children are the ones most affected when a marriage dissolves.”
But the divorce industry itself doesn’t suffer: according to DivorceGuide.com, Americans who divorce contribute to a 28-billion dollar industry every year. To help ease the financial burden for individuals and couples before they enter the legal arena, Silcox, via DivorceToolBox.com, provides online sessions that identifies and addresses pertinent issues for her clients, then negotiates solutions. Working this way up front can save those seeking divorce time, money, and the heartache of protracted conflicts in divorces which are contested, before, during, or even after courtroom proceedings.
FILING FOR DIVORCE
Although the “storm” of divorce filings doubles in January, the aftermath of divorce’s path of destruction is felt any time of year--and for many years to come—as families attempt to reconstruct their lives.Silcox adds, “That’s my mission with Divorce Tool Box, to help individuals and couples re-build, making decisions they can live with, with an eye not just for the present, but also for the future.”
Divorce Tool Box is an online program for individuals or couples contemplating or currently undergoing divorce. Custody parenting plans, assets and liabilities, division of property and money matters, along with emotional support are some of the issues addressed in the online sessions to help people make wise decisions before entering the legal arena. This guidance can help ease a difficult process easier with step by step guideance. Learn about Divorce Tool Box and how it works.